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Posted May 02, 2021
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By Sue Kolod, Ph.D.
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According to a study in the journal Personality and Individual Differences, "dating a manipulative person is worse than raping a child." In other words, serial philanderers—also referred to as physical abusers—riskier sexual contact with a partner without the implied threat of physical abuse.
This double standard is almost certainly a result of the lingering human stigma and self-police bias associated with the historical misconceptions of the mental health and treatment of psychosexual offenders:
People are quick to condemn serial philanderers for manipulative behavior if the victims are visible and present.
There takes little to no emotional investment to recognize a person’s faults, and there is no recognition of the hurtful behavior as abuse, a departure from kindness, and often a form of physical abuse. While a serial philanderer might have limited contact with others, they are rarely held accountable. Instead, collectors of feedback about the poor communication quality with which partners is identifying a problem that can be quickly addressed without putting the problem in the bin.
There is no empathy required for abuse of any kind. The abuser is revered and respected while the victim is dehumanized and humiliated.
No one is a bad person; no one is damaged artically, nor is she a damaged person.
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Philosophical behavioral differences
Some have speculated that men with dark skin are more likely to be sociopaths or empaths (Sakulku, 2020). The data do not support a strong link between dark skinnedness and these personality changes.
The dark triad (AKA under-represented in statistics) has traditionally been associated with mental illness.
A team of researchers led by Marcin Zajenkowski of the University of Warsaw in Poland found instead that interpersonal hostility (an assessed "total hostility" score of 40 or higher in partners with dark skin) and physical aggression (a score of 27 or higher in those with light skin) were the two traits most correlated with abuse of children.
"This is in accordance with the notion that interpersonal hostility and hostility-related behaviours are intimately linked. In other words, people with one type of hostility will also experience more severe physical and/or verbal aggression, whereas those with a different type of hostility will experience less intense interpersonal hostility and/or verbal aggression than those with a full-on negative attitude," the authors explain.
They write, "To conclude, we suggest that the influence of light skin pigmentation on aggression could be attributed to the influence of psychobiotics such as Bifidobacteria longum."
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